I’ve done a lot of talking recently about the stigma behind mental illness. It’s (relatively) common knowledge that I voluntarily went to McLean Hospital for a brief inpatient stay after losing my job and am now in a two-week partial hospital program involving intensive dialectical behaviour therapy. (The short version is that my doctor and I agreed that it would be a good idea to be able to get onto a good path to be able to appropriately cope with the high levels of stress.)
My parents were naturally a bit concerned that I was so open about my battle against my own brain — the stigma is still horrific — and while we’ve certainly made strides in accepting people who struggle with mental illness, we are far from “there yet”. My father gently cautioned me and said it has the potential to come back and bite me later on. Of course it does. Lots of things do, but this more than most, so his concern is well-placed.
That said, I have bigger fish to fry.
Today I received a diagnosis of bipolar II. For those unaware, bipolar type II is the form where one or more hypomanic or mixed episodes are present as well as depressive phases, but no manic episodes have ever happened, so it’s closer to the depressive end of the spectrum rather than the manic end. Bipolar disorder is usually poorly understood by people not well read on it, so I invite you to read more about it here: http://www.webmd.com/bipolar-disorder/guide/bipolar-2-disorder
If you’re neurotypical, this is me-in-relation-to-you in a nutshell: I’m moody when I’m off my meds or not coping well. That’s it. My moods will shift around seemingly for no reason at all — to give you an example, I was up in Maine for a training weekend and someone said the word “objective”, which is a word related to my now-former job but otherwise contextually irrelevant, and I spent about an hour upset. I wasn’t even upset about my job — hell, I’m actually at peace with the fact that I don’t have it anymore for a number of reasons, primarily that it was a relatively amicable parting — but that’s how I shift. That was before I started a mood stabilizer, and while it’s not a wonder drug, the change has been dramatic and I’ve not felt this well in over a decade.
And yet the specter of what-if still hangs over me, insisting that this will follow me forever and curse me to a life of unemployability.
Of course it will follow me — it’s my brain. This is most likely never going to completely go away. I will always have difficult feelings and always need to use the tools I have to be able to appropriately respond to them. I’ve also found that others being aware that a shift in mood is a quirk of mine is extremely helpful in terms of understanding how to work with and be friends with me and that me going from happy to upset in under 3 seconds is not necessarily a reflection on them, it’s my brain working differently.
The sentiment I’ve received the most of, though, is that the people around me are proud of me for speaking up. And I’ve decided to continue with that. I am still a person of value and quite capable. I have recognised my problems and I have asked for help. I have owned my strengths and shortcomings and worked damn hard to get to where I am today, and I refuse to entertain the possibility of shutting up about it.
An estimated 21 million people worldwide have some form of bipolar spectrum disorder, not to mention the millions of other people who have some other form of mental illness. A significant portion of these people suffer in silence, ironically being that they are some of the people who need love, support, and community the most. The people at the highest risk of suicide are the people who are left poor and isolated the most, and even the ones who have sought help are labelled ‘crazy’ and seen as less-than — seen as the ephemeral Other.
I will not be one of those people. As one of my contact people at McLean said during a wonderful conversation, “the change has to come from the patients”. I am a psychiatric patient and I am getting well. I am taking charge of the most difficult thing I will ever experience. Ending stigma needs all the help it can get and I intend to commit at least some portion of my life to giving people with conditions like mine a voice.
I have bipolar II. I am a person with skills, intelligence, and value. I will not suffer in silence, I will not walk this treacherous path alone, and I am not ashamed.